Eyes On The Road

It never ceases to amaze me the life lessons God shows me through my kids.  At every age and every stage of life I have some pretty cool revelations on life and how we approach it.  The most current lesson was on focus.  As you can see above, my lil Sydney-Boo had focus a lot of things as she scooted along on her brand new Christmas present.

The real lesson I learned is at the heart of a few things I’ve been going through personally and professionally this last year.  Just like my lil’ Princess, when things are scooting along and seem to be going right, it’s easy to take our eyes off the road.  In her eyes, everything was going great…the scooter was doing what it should….the road was there….and look, wow there are bunch of other things passing by that are cool to watch at this speed and height!

So, that’s what happens when we get comfortable where we are…when it all feels like it’s going good, and there is no real disaster lurking in the foreseeable future.  Little did Sydney know, just 30 seconds and 3 feet to the left was a road that had cars much bigger and faster that could easily make her a speed bump.

That’s when we enter the Father…both figuratively and realistically.  You can see the shadow of the Father here, ummm, yep I’m that guy who takes pics and videos everything (a.k.a. proud father).  Just like our Father, our God, He is with us every step of the way to make sure we don’t end up a speed bump.  He guides and directs, with a voice and a hand just in time…everytime.  The result is a child who is smiling and keeping her “eye on the road.”

Where is our Father God leading you? What path are you traveling with Him this next year? Listen to His voice…Feel His hand, as he guides and directs.

Breathe In & Smile Out,


Reason, Season, or Lifetime

I have run across this anonymous post a few times.  I’m not sure who wrote it, but it fits my mindset this time of the year when I’m taking inventory of my relationships.  Here it is, take a read:

When someone is in your life for a REASON…It is usually to meet a need you have expressed. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally, or spiritually. They may seem like a Godsend and they are! They are there for the reason you need them to be.

The, without any wrongdoing on your part, or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand. Sometimes they die. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled, their work is done. Your need has been answered, and now it is time to move on.

When people come into your life for a SEASON…It is because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn. They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it! It is real! But, only for a season.

LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons; things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person, and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life. It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.

I know as a leader, managing expectations is critical.  When they are skewed, then chaos soon follows.  So, as I look back on 2010 and forward to 2011, I’m trying to manage my expectations of relationships I have in life.  Whether work, family, friend, church, there needs to be healthy understanding and expectation of where they fall….reason, season, or lifetime.

I’m committed this next year to focus on the lifetime relationships.  They are the hardest to gain, and as I look back I see how many I thought were there…actually weren’t.  They were seasonal or really circumstantial.  I know that we are called to walk this journey out with the lifetime friends.  They can’t be everyone, but they have to be the right ones.

Where do your relationships fall? Pray about them, and pour time into the ones that count…and don’t sweat the reason or seasons…learn from them and move on.

Breathe In & Smile Out,